 
  
Invoking netstat -ta on vlager produces:
           $ netstat -ta
           Active Internet connections
           Proto Recv-Q Send-Q Local Address    Foreign Address    (State)
           tcp        0      0 *:domain         *:*                LISTEN
           tcp        0      0 *:time           *:*                LISTEN
           tcp        0      0 *:smtp           *:*                LISTEN
           tcp        0      0 vlager:smtp      vstout:1040        ESTABLISHED
           tcp        0      0 *:telnet         *:*                LISTEN
           tcp        0      0 localhost:1046   vbardolino:telnet  ESTABLISHED
           tcp        0      0 *:chargen        *:*                LISTEN
           tcp        0      0 *:daytime        *:*                LISTEN
           tcp        0      0 *:discard        *:*                LISTEN
           tcp        0      0 *:echo           *:*                LISTEN
           tcp        0      0 *:shell          *:*                LISTEN
           tcp        0      0 *:login          *:*                LISTEN
This shows most servers simply waiting for an incoming connection. However,
the fourth line shows an incoming SMTP connection from vstout, and
the sixth line tells you there is an outgoing telnet connection
to vbardolino. 
Using the -a flag all by itself will display all sockets from all families.